how to get someone into a treatment center?

Question by LindsayLittle: how to get someone into a treatment center?
my fiance has problems relating to depression, anxiety, and now even alcohol abuse. its getting very bad..
none of his family members seem to see how bad his problems are and i have no idea how to help him.
he refuses to go to counseling or to his doctor (he said it didn’t work for him before) nothing i say helps. is there a hotline i can call to discuss this with or anything?? i just don’t know what to do. =[

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Answer by piji_caj
Have you tried to say something to the effect of “Look, this is getting bad. I can’t marry someone with these kinds of problems?” I don’t think you can force anyone into treatment, unless they’re suicidal. But maybe if you made it clear how you felt, he would consider getting help.

You can call 1-800-Suicide to talk to someone in your area about how you feel. They might be able to give you some tips on how to deal with your relationship.

You might want to consider therapy yourself. This can’t be easy to deal with.

Take care.

Answer by Cella
Lindsay,

If you mean treatment for alcohol, he will only go in if he is ready. You can try intervention. You can suggest rehab. A lot of rehabs have duel diagnosis. That means for depression and alcohol. The two go together most of the time anyway.

I went into rehab for drugs. Here’s what I learned. There is steps or a cycle that a person goes through. Now keep in mind that the depression and anxiety are because of the alcohol. The steps are: curiosity, addiction, admitting you have a problem, trying to rehab yourself, relapsing, asking for help, going into rehab and sometimes relapsing…

There are many places that can aid you in your search. First off you need to check out your insurance and see what they will cover. Some have a plan and a list of places they recommend. If not the state usually has place he can be put into. There might be a waiting list. So check out the your county or state programs.

Once you get him into a program make sure you have at least a one year plan. That means long term rehab(3-6 months is the best) then his after care. I believe that therapy and support are the best for after rehab. So find a therapist and a support program, like AA or something like that. At AA he would have a sponsor, someone who went through it and is there for him teaching and talking with him anytime he needs it.

While he is in rehab educate yourself, get into a support group yourself. Talk with other people who have gone through this. They can be there for you when things get tough or cheer you on when things go your way.

It is a tough road and I commend you on sticking with him through this. Just remember this can work out, although there may be some let downs. Remember the steps of recovery. They say relapes is part of recovery.

Feel free to email me anytime.

Take care and don’t give up!

Cella

PS. Stay away from a places called NARCONON or NEW LIFEas it is SCIENTOLOGY. They have them all over the world.

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